Explaining autism to your child’s brothers and sisters can feel tricky — you want them to understand what autism means without overwhelming them.
The goal isn’t to make it complicated; it’s to help them see that their sibling just experiences the world in a different way. When kids understand that, it builds empathy, patience, and stronger family bonds.
Start with Simple, Honest Conversations
You don’t need a script — just honesty at their level. For younger kids, keep it simple:
“Your brother’s brain works a little differently. He might need extra help learning to talk or play, but he loves you just the same.”
For older kids, you can explain that autism affects how people communicate, learn, or handle certain situations — but it doesn’t define who their sibling is. Encourage questions, even the tough ones. The more open you are, the more comfortable they’ll feel.
Focus on Strengths and Differences
Remind siblings that everyone has things they’re great at — and things they find challenging. Maybe their brother is amazing at puzzles but struggles with noise. Maybe their sister memorizes songs easily but finds eye contact hard.
Highlighting these differences helps siblings see autism as just one part of who their brother or sister is — not something “wrong,” just something unique.
Encourage Inclusion and Understanding
Siblings often want to help but may not know how. Show them small ways to connect — like joining their sibling’s play, using simple language, or celebrating small wins together.
You can also help them understand that sometimes, their sibling might need more attention — but that doesn’t mean they’re loved any less.
Get Support When You Need It
It’s okay if you don’t have all the answers. ABA professionals can help guide these conversations. At Steady Strides ABA, families across Texas and New Mexico get compassionate support through home-based autism therapy, school-based ABA, and center-based therapy in Houston.
Our autism assessments and ABA parent training programs also give parents tools to support every child in the family — not just the one receiving therapy.
Need guidance on supporting siblings? Reach out to Steady Strides ABA for family-focused ABA therapy that helps everyone thrive.
FAQs
How early should I talk to my kids about their sibling’s autism?
Start early — as soon as they notice differences. Keep the conversation ongoing as they grow and understand more.
What if siblings feel jealous or left out?
That’s normal. Make time for one-on-one moments and remind them their feelings matter too.
Can ABA therapy help siblings understand autism better?
Yes! With ABA parent training, families learn how to explain autism in age-appropriate ways and strengthen sibling relationships.
Sources:
- https://www.autism.org.uk/advice-and-guidance/topics/about-autism/autism-and-communication
- https://www.nidcd.nih.gov/health/autism-spectrum-disorder-communication-problems-children
- https://www.autism.org.uk/advice-and-guidance/topics/family-life-and-relationships/family-life/siblings
- https://www.appliedbehavioranalysisedu.org/5-tips-for-talking-to-neurotypical-kids-about-siblings-with-asd/
- https://www.marcus.org/autism-resources/autism-tips-and-resources/promoting-positive-sibling-relationships
